Relationships are meant to emotionally and spiritually nourish the well-functioning individual. And they are supposed to feel good.
However, if we are in a pattern of using relationships to feel OK about ourselves, we are not in an emotional state conducive to building a healthy relationship.
Instead of striving to balance the relationship, we strive to balance the individual who is in the relationship.
Relationships are meant to emotionally and spiritually nourish the well-functioning individual. And they are supposed to feel good. 
